Welcome to Safe Speak

Safe Speak was created knowing that people around us just "don't get it." And posting about your loss and grief online is often judged, criticized, and "concerning" to those who've never lost someone so damn important.

There are endless realities to the loss of your husband, and so many of them are too tender to share about on your go-to social networking sites (IG + FB). Too many people are watching, and let's face it: they can't handle what we're really going through.

Safe Speak is a cushioned, protected, confidential container for widows who feel crazy from the grief, and want a trusted place where they can voice their real experience and feel validated, seen, and heard.

This is the space for you if you want to understand what's happening within all this chaos, learn from others who are going through the same challenges, and find hope and encouragement that you'll get through this.

Because you will. WE will...together. 

Most likely, you're surrounded by "norms" who can't understand an ounce of your widow experience or the depths of the grief...so you're left feeling like there's something wrong with you that you can't just "stop thinking about it so much" or "focus on the positive!" 

You start feeling like you're doing it wrong, and become well aware of the judging eyes all around you...even from your doctor!

When you get in the right room with us in Safe Speak, you'll take in a big breath, probably even cry a bit...because you feel SEEN.

You feel completely normal.

There is nothing wrong with YOU.

Your husband is dead, and that's what's wrong. Once you're in the right room with us, you'll feel what it feels like to be able to separate crazy from normal, grief from outrageous expectations, and you'll have the guidance and support you need to start working your way through this intense, frightening, and new life.

Actually, it's better.

Your therapist may be "trauma-informed," but that all came from a book. You can only "talk therapy" so long before you realize your sessions keep taking you back to childhood while you need a roadmap forward, because this is all new to you!

Safe Speak encompasses the actual, real and raw experiences of hundreds of widows who actually know what it's like, and is guided by a coach and mentor who's been through both childhood trauma, years of therapy, and the loss of her soul mate as well.

The only way through grief is by getting through it, and that's really the only way you become widow- and trauma-informed.

When you realize your doctor can't help you, your therapist is limited, and those around you just keep telling you try meds...or edibles...or sleep aids...you come to realize the only help that truly feels supportive is the kind that comes from anther widow.

When you become a Safe Speak community member, you become part of highly-motivated network of widows who actually want to grieve well, cherish what she had, and create something she can be proud of again.

Here's what's included in your membership:

• Daily Chats for 24/7 Support. Feeling alone? Want to make sure what you’re experiencing is normal? Need some encouragement from people that actually know what it’s like to lose a spouse? These daily chats act as your go-to space to feel heard, seen, and held. We cover topics you can't speak anywhere else: the real feeling that you don't want to be here anymore, the shameful intrusive thoughts, the very private struggles your children are having...

• Weekly Coaching with Heather Quisel, a trauma- and widow-informed life coach who shares her unique methods and perspectives on grief, widowhood, and starting all over.

• Private Community. Become part of the #1 community of smart, very capable, high-achieving women of all ages, backgrounds, and walks of life, who are navigating widowhood uniquely, but together.

• The Grieving Widow’s Toolbox. Get access to a growing library full of curated resources and content that empower you to become a student of your own grief experience.

...all for less than $1 a day!

I'm the founder of Safe Speak and creator of Real Widowhood: a 12-week coaching program for widows who want to step out of the darkest grief, make peace with what is, and make a life that's beautiful again.

My husband died in 2018, and I found myself believing 2 very big lies:

1. I can figure this out on my own.

2. This will all be over in a year.

I was crushing under the weight of all the widow pressures and drowning in self-hatred because I wasn't bouncing back, and I wasn't okay, and after trying all the do-it-myself methods of figuring this out on my own, I went to Instagram.

That was 2 and a half long years into my widowhood experience, and it was the connection to other widows on Instagram that radically changed my grief, and quickly.

Building communities isn't new to me: before Larry died, I'd grown a global sales organization of thousands, mentored hundreds of thousands more, and was recognized in my local community as a Business Woman of the Year multiple times.

I don't know why I thought I could do widowhood alone when everything I've ever done up until then revolved around building women and cultivating communities around them!

I have an uncanny list of skills that God is using in my own life after loss: I taught preschool children for 10 years and during that time I worked with 10 young children who lost their father in my care.

I have a child psychology background, as well as 10 years of coaching and mentoring women to be leaders in business and in their homes.

A childhood trauma when I was 3 years old launched me into healing modalities in my 30's, giving me many of the tools I'd need after losing Larry.

And I have a heart for sharing authentically, vulnerably, and boldly.

I hope to serve you with all I can.